Absolutely the only thing that worked for me was to say 'no contact' and then follow through with that-whatever it took. At this point EXAH is awaiting a May 9 court date on multiple charges of contempt for ignoring a restraining order, and possibly facing jail time.
And it is, or course, all my fault.........quack, quack, quack.
But I, like Elana above, feel better everyday.