sorry that you are having to deal with this but like they said, it what addicts do, i should have been able to remember that myself the other night but i didn't and maybe i didn't want to remember, maybe i feel like going off too, whatever.
i think that you have a right to try to help your financial situation by not allowing the ac to be on before time. i had to ask my rah the same thing about the ac and today, he pays the bill but he's not the only person who lives here. what happens if he decides to binge, then i'll be stuck with his ac bill, not gonna happen. he has a right to be angry, its a god given emotion but its up to you to allow his anger to effect you in a negative way.
i think that you are being too fair maybe for his own good. you are doing just fine. i try not to confront my rah in front of company but i don't have a problem doing it after company's gone or calling him to the side and whispering what i want him to know. still praying for ya.