Hi KC,
As long as you keep trying, you can never be a loser.
What worked for me, was making plans and varying daily routines. Plan what you will do next time your husband brings home a bottle of wine. Work it out in your mind and stick with it. You can also change your daily routines. One of the things I did was simple. Right after dinnertime was a tough time for me. So, I quickly cleaned up the dishes and headed outside for a long walk. It worked wonders. You know that changing one thing leads to many other changes. Just change one thing.