thanks for the welcome.
good point, 51anna... I do feel resentful at this point, but I'm in the process of owning up to what I've done and what I need to do.
parentrecovers... I have been looking into the AA groups in my area. My husband just started (back) up with NA, and he's doing a 90 meetings in 90 days thing right now. He's also in an intensive outpatient program that just started today.