Cinder - read your post before church and didn't get to reply until now. I just read your Just for today so I'm assuming you are feeling that you have enough to submit for a restraining order - such a difficult thing to do when you have kids - read some stuff this AM on the net something was mentioned about "fear of physical harm" - that's an awful thing to live with isn't Cinder? Is that how you would like to live? Is it a good example? Do you need to have your kids pass it on to theirs and theirs? I wish it would all go away for you and you live happily ever after. Let us know how you make your decision and best of luck - Sending Love and (((HUGS)))