Pom Pom time!! Rose I think you got it!!
Now start small...pick one thing to focus on. For me it was not telling them what to wear...everytime I did it caused a huge fight. For you it will be something else.
Let us know what you choose and let us know how you do. And above all else do not beat yourself up if you blow it. Be aware and learn from it.
Ann wandered around in the beginning saying "I am powerless" for me it was the serenity prayer that I chanted in my car on the way to work.
Good work girl!!
(((Hugs)))
JT