Thanks Ladies, I do hear you now. That's exactly it, the one little thing I can focus on. Not blowing up anymore, over anything. I can feel mad but I don't have to blow up. I can run in my room and beat the pillow on the bed or something else. I can do this but it will be HARD.
I like the "I really like it when you..." Boy if I can just get smart enough to use that approach.
Today I think I got it, but will I forget tomorrow? Changing your thinking is like rolling Atlas' world up the hill, it just keeps coming down! LOL Up I go...........