Its taken me a long time to learn this.
You cant change other people. The only thing you can change is yourself. When you gamble your happiness on someone elses changing to please you then all you do is give them power over you.
Do I always practice this? Hell No. LOL. If I had my *?#!*?#!*?#!*?#! together I wouldnt be here. LOL.
If your happiness depends on his putting away the vacuum then he has the power to make you unhappy by not doing it. Do you want to give him that power.
Read your last paragraph. I think youre answering your own question. If he was fulfilling your other needs you wouldnt care about the vacuum. So leave the vacuum alone and concentrate on what matters.
Have you told him what you need. Sometimes theyre kinda dense and you have to spell things out. Dont do the you always thing. Try I really like it when you.....
Some of them are like kids. Praise works better than a stick. LOL.