My AH has been in rehab for 11 days now. At first I felt the same way you did. Everytime I talked to him the call was being monitored and very rarely spoke of the actual program and what was going on or what would go on. Today my ah therapist and him called me and we did some phone therapy. It actually felt really good. They suggested us seeing a marriage counselor and said we would continue to have therapy sessions over the phone until he returned.
I would check with the facility and see if they offer any kind of family sessions or family counseling. Like I said, I have only had one by phone but it helped alot.