Sunflower:
Why oh why do we allow it?
Simply because we are chemicaly addicted to the feelings of the
drama.....it has developed from years of worry, pain,of gut twisting
(love), and the enormous 24 hour absolutely impossible task of fixing
other people's lives. Family members and others we care about.
I was accused of this on my job as a social worker, I never could leave
my worries about families and children at the office or the shelters,
or problems I had detetcted in Foster homes that day. It finally burned
me out. And now, another challenge is set before me, she was just here,
and I want so much to fix her. This person is more dear to me than most
people in my whole life, we share the same disease, but God has placed
others in her path that are already helping her, and I agree are better to
lead her into sobriety, I am just too darn close. I am barely getting well
myself, and worrying about her has my serenity already tearing on the
outside seams. I now have 15 months without a drink and with the
support I have here on SR and at home I will be all right. I turn this
family member over. Pray for her, detach in love, help others.
Hang out with the winners, Sunflower.
Help some newcomers, give them the hope they come here searching for.
Turn your loved ones over each day to the God of your understanding.
Stand back and watch what happens.
It is working for me today.
Love,
Sherry