tif-I agree with everyone , he is manipulating you .
I rmbr my mom telling me once after my dad was sober for abt a year ,
that you imagine when they quit drinking they will go immediately back to the person they were before and like magic all your troubles go away .
well like the rest of us , she learned the hard way . they still have all the same bad relationship skills and communication skills . lying and manipulating are a way of life for them for so long , unfortunately it takes a long time for that to change . its a long road but he is on it and thats a big plus .
lots of luck & prayers for you and your family , i wish him well