He did it before we were separated as well, but it escalated after. Eventually he had so many 9-1-1 calls and attempts he was committed to the State hospital for mentally ill people. He died 8 months later of a heart attack.
None of this was my fault. He was mentally ill and depressed since he was age 10 and he was playing with matches and got a fire going that burned the family farm's main barn down.. after harvest was done. He carried the guilt of that to his grave. He was mentally ill for 57 years.