I feel for you tiff. every time I go places or try to enjoy myself . My AH will call me 100 times. And its always to make me feel bad or to tell me he needs something.. and usually it works . I end up feeling bad for going and go back home. But, not anymore. Beleive when you have had enough you will know it. But, it doesn't stop you freom feeling guilty. Just keep your head up and know you did nothing wrong.. I even told him I was coming to this site to get me some help on how to deal with everything. He replied with, that place only causes divorces. No when I stand up for myself on what I will deal wit hand what I wont he blames this site. This site just helped me see I a mnot alone. And gives me strength when I feel low. I visited this site over a month before I ever posted. Now I am here everyday. So keep coming here and go to a meeting and you will see things from a different side.
Hugs to you ...