thank you
I have read that book and will send it on to my folks. And I do recognize the importance of taking care of myself - the hardest part is hearing my dad's voice. We yelled at each other on the phone yesterday for the first time in my memory. That's when I realized I need to step back and send them both a letter with a list of resources, which will include this forum. My dad doesn't use the net, but that doesn't mean he can't pick up a phone and ask for professional help. I just know he doesn't do that kind of thing. And I have to make peace with that. Thank you so much for the support. It has been a very rough few days, particularly with my sister's suggestions of hurting herself. She turns 50 in a few days, and on that same day I lost an ex-boyfriend to suicide, so it is really more than I can handle from her right now. And if she is saying it to get more money, than I know I am over my head! So again, I am grateful for finding this group.
cheers,
m