I agree with hopeforever....easy to do on paper, hard to do in real life. My addict is my husband, (who is currently doing very well! Keep fingers crossed!) but since our lives are in intertwined as far as property and business ownership ( we own some together and some separately), I HAVE to know what is going on because I have to protect my interests. However, I don't nag him or stay up his butt 24-7. Since I know what to "see" now as far as behaviour goes etc. I think I will know, and take the appropriate steps.