Faith, read sites about "what addicts do". As use continues, they escalate. Mine didn't start by disappearing for days. In the last year before we split, he took off for 3 weeks & ended up in a psych ward. I know this is very hard. I know it would drive me crazy too. yes, you did the right thing. Unfortunately, you did all that YOU can. I know I'd be feeling the same way you are. I still do. I still have bad days & good days & great days. And we are 2,000 miles apart. Believe it or not, several months ago I woke up in the middle of the night & knew he was back in jail. Guess what?? He was for 90 days.
I don't know how they last as long as they do. Mine has been shot, stabbed, beat up several times & still comes out on top sooner or later.
Hang in there. This is NOT easy. And for him to do this to you is NOT what you want with your life. This is NOT a relationship.
Lynne