I found out addicts are very self centered. They want everyone else to think they are wrong and the addict is right. Please step back and look after yourself right now. I agree with anvilhead you need to unplug from him. Take time to see what is best for you. If you are living with him, not sure of your story, stay someplace else for a few days. Don't do anything until you are sure you want to do it. Turn this over to your HP, he/she will guide you and do what is best. You don't deserve to be treated the way you are, no one does.
I think you know what you want to do, but are afraid of being alone. Is being alone worse then being treated the way you are????? We can't answer that for you, I wish there was something I could do to help you at this point, but only YOU can HELP YOU!
I will pray for you to find the strength to work through this.
Hugs