duet,
Hopefully this guy will contact you and you can further explain what you mean...you know, "say what you mean but don't say it mean."
You must remember, he's most likely what we call an "earth person", one of those out there who doesn't have addiction around him, or at least not up close and personal enough to where he's acknowledged it and gotten help to understand it. He just has absolutely no idea about the territory in which he is treading. He's outside of his hula hoop, as we say, most likely thinking he is helping.
Maybe direct him to Al Anon so he could learn to understand the disease of addiction and ask him to understand and give you the respect to deal with your situation as you see fit without outside "help".
Hugs,
Hangin' In