Ah, the well meaning Church Goers. I had to deal with them too... and my situation was much like yours. My A's anger and bad behavior was escalating and it was becoming a dangerous situation for my sons and for me. And then HE got the church involved.
I decided that I would continue on my path... and only talk about myself, my boundaries, etc when asked. When "they" said they were praying for me and my marriage, I always thanked them for their prayers. I said if you want something specific to pray for, pray for healing. THEY presumed I meant healing for the marriage. I meant personal healing for me and for my A, but not for US.
Some people just don't get it... and they don't know what goes on behind closed doors. I was pretty good at hiding our dysfunctional life, so it was no wonder they didn't know there were problems!
It's none of their business. Just keep on your path of recovery and healing... let the rest fall into place.
Hugs
Cat