Saying prayers for you and your AD. Maybe a court ordered rehab or some jail time will help her to clear her head and see that she wants a better life. As for California maybe it is time to make the move. Being miserable where you are is not helping your situation. At least in California you have friends and as you said there is more for your grandson to do. Waiting around for your daughter to want to get better may have you waiting for a long time. Time to put you first. Mom hugs to you, Marle