welcome to S.R. i am the mother of a 34 yr.old son who has been an addict since he was about 17. it is hard on us mothers to let go of our children no matter if they are grown.if she is has hit her bottom there is nothing you can do for her.attend a meeting & try to take her with you.this site has saved my life.today i refuse to let my sons problems control my every thought.i can not save him.you can not save your brother or your mother.keep coming back & work on your recovery.we are glad to have you.prayers for your brother , mother & you too.