Hey there Free ....no the kids want nothing to do with their grandparents or my XAH...and just for the record my ex father in law is a recovered alcoholic turned minister...... in fact he told me that maybe I should have drank with him.!!!! Nice huh? And my ex mother in law was a social worker..... who worked with abused families....go figure..
Welcome Utahman.....I'm sorry that you are going through such pain tonight I remember when my parents went through their divorce...my mother was the alcoholic in our family and my parents were married for 32 years and had 6 kids....she divorced my father and he was so very very hurt and passed away 4 years after it was final.... He loved my mother soooo very much and after he died my mother admitted that divorcing him was the biggest mistake of her life and that he truly was the love of her life.....she died alone and at the age of 73 a year ago. She blamed him for everything too hun....and I mean everything....the man never had a chance. But you know what? He still after all that she put him through would never never let one of his 6 kids say anything unkind about her...even after she accused my father of having an affair with ME...he truly loved her to the day he died and never ever did either one of them date anyone else again.
Rehab doesn't do a thing for the spouses of alcoholics....they are there only for the alcoholic. And alot of affairs happen in those rooms too. Not to scare you or anything its just a fact. They call that the 13th step. I wouldnt leave your home for anything or anyone. You have just as much right to be there as she does. JMHO. Take care
Janit