mec: on the off chance that you do decide to ever come here again - I hope that you will read this post that I made awhile back:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...loved-him.html
It may help you to understand why some of the members here seem cold and heartless.
Even if you never post on this board again - I hope that you will read the "Sticky" posts on the forum. There really is a lot of good information in there.
While it may seem that you have gotten a lot of negative feedback or you've taken things personally - please remember that everyone here is in a different part of their recovery and each of us shares from our own experiences. While most of us don't have the "happily ever after" ending that we all wished for - that doesn't mean that we don't understand your pain because we do. In some way, shape, or form - we've been there and experienced it.
May you find happiness and peace mec. I wish you well.