I certainly did not intend to be mean, and, I am sorry if I upset you.
You have every idea about what you are doing, and why you are doing it.
All "A's" are not losers, they all have a disease, and all are manipulaters, it just goes with the territory. My mother has been drinking for 60 years, I don't think she is a loser, she is just very sick and there is nothing I can do about it, until she is ready to seek recovery, which in her case will never happen.
You made your choice, and again I say, I hope it works out for you.
Calm down. no need to get so defensive, I didn't say you should give up on him, this is your decision, not mine and does not affect me one way or the other.
Keep posting, I won't respond to your posts, that should resolve the issue.