As the mom of a 20 year old that has a very similar story to yours (Oxy to heroin) all I can say is that you are doing the right thing not letting her come home. My daughter is not welcome to live in my house. She must find her own way. We tried too many things in the past (rehab, bailouts, drug testing) and have decided to let her addiction be hers and her decisions be hers. She currently lives with her 37 year old crack addict boyfriend who enables her with all the free drugs she wants. I don't expect with that kind of an offer that she will be willing to accept rehab anytime soon. So I pray for the law to intervene and I pray that God will keep her safe until she decides that she wants a better life. That is all that I can do for her. But I can do a lot for me in order to make sure that I don't get dragged along with her. This is a special place. You will find a ton of experience and love here. So welcome, stick around, read and post. We need you. Hugs, Marle