Originally Posted by
denny57 
Well, ask him! I'd make it a coffee outside the work environment. Less pressure.
Here's some other info to answer your original question:
http://www.uc.edu/cc/healthy.html
Thanks for the link!
Under the list of UNHEALTHY love..I think these may fit this situation:
Excessive fear of risk, change, or the unknown (me)
Being afraid of affection and closeness (me)
Cares with excessive detachment (me)
Very few truly intimate experiences
Giving indirect, evasive answers to questions (him)
(me, me and me) Learn to identify your own personal cues that you are being drawn into a power game, such as: feeling confused, guilty, uncomfortable, doubting yourself;
Under the list of HEALTHY love....(from what I know to this point anyway):
Allows for Individuality (him)
Has individual high self-esteem (him)
Expresses feelings spontaneously (him)
Welcomes affection and closeness (him)
...i don't know about any of the other stuff yet...
The pages lists the REFERENCES AS:
Is it Love or is it Addiction by Brenda Schaeffer
Co-dependent No More by Melody Beattie.
...i've not yet read the first...i'll definetly keep an eye out for that book!!