((Elana)) Being sad at our addicts' actions and being furious at them are two different weapons to fight the madness of it all with.
Sadness is like a stick.
Rage is like one of those medieval battle-axes.
It's nothing I'm proud of, believe me, but being angry (angry at the way someone would treat someone as nice as me...once I was able to respect myself again) made it a lot easier than just feeling sad and miserable about it all.
I understand that addiction is a disease, but I don't condone the things that are done by addicts using the disease as an excuse. My sister would do the most horrible things, and then throw up her hands and cry, "Oh! This insidious disease! Look what it made me do!" Infidelity falls into that category for me. Game's over at that point. I'll love them from afar where they can't ruin my chances for a happy life.
Sigh.
Dragging my axe back to work....thump, thump, thump
Love,
GL