doneforsure

Hi all,
Well, I learned some very valuable lessons the hard way in this past week. My exagf just recently went on welfare, and was looking for me to bail her out of the hole she's in financially, and I told her there was no way I would, that I loaned her thousands of dollars and I haven't seen a dollar of it, and I know I won't. The cancellation of the health insurance went through, and I called her last Thursday to let her know I'd send her the COBRA forms, and what a storm that caused. She called me about 6 times while at work, which after the first call I let everything go to voice mail, and I sent her an email telling her that I wasn't trying to hurt her etc etc, and she turned around and called HR, told them I was harrassing her, and I called in on the carpet and had to explain the entire situation. My mistake....should never have sent an email from work.
This past weekend she contacted me again, I nicely told her that taking care of her substance abuse was too important to ignore, that we didn't see things the same, and that any further contact would not serve any purpose whatsoever. She asked me for some of the things that somehow ended up in my car, and I agreed as long as she wanted to give me back about 1000 worth of tools, along with some of my son's things that were still at her house. She agreed, however she wouldn't tell me when. Folks, I know that it's a bridge that she wanted to keep open, but after the fiasco last Thursday, no thank you. I was very nice to her, explained to her that I just wanted to be decent to her, but she just went completely ballistic. I'm thinking that she was just looking to keep the road open, but I'm ready for some closure here, and was just trying to do the right thing. I made a movie(I work in the computer field) with 3D animations of each of her family members as well as a pretty cool slide show of her family and one for her friend. That blew up in my face as well....resulting in her calling my mother of all people, threatening all kinds of things, calling my job again, complaints of harrassment, yet if there was any harrassment here, it's been the other way around with all the nasty messages and emails she has sent me. What a bunch of bull. I don't care about the right and decent thing anymore, because even trying to end it with her on a decent note is just way way too dangerous. I considered a police escort to retrieve my things, but you know what? It just isn't worth it. She is so unstable.agreeable..nice one minute...looking to nail me to the wall the next... I can no longer risk it. Rules are set up to delete emails automatically, and all phone calls are not being answered. The lies she tells are unreal. As my screen name says, doneforsure before I end up losing everything.

I just had to vent. Better I guess than letting it get to me and making a bad decision that will be way too costly.

Thanks all