Thanks calabash for your input.
In fact, I've been there, done that.
But, when I think of this, "striking back" kind of response, I feel it doesn't do much any good. It is energy we can place elsewhere, (I'm looking at it from a Codependent point of view, since that's what I am)
And actually I think you have to ask the "why" of why, you would do that, for YOUR benefit, or the addicts.
Trying to tell a disease the way you feel, just doesn't get me anywhere.
It may make you feel better to start with, but, for me, it makes me feel worse in the long run.
Just my take on it.
I know in the beginning I really got it off my chest with my 2 sons, and I felt, afterward it was a lesson in futility. All it did was get my blood pressure up.
And strained the relationship even more.
Hugs,