Calabash...
Thanks so much for your input.
I think for now I have decided to just feel the way I want to feel - but since my ex-ABF and I are not in a relationship anymore, at least a romantic one - I'm not going to "unleash" on him unless he asks, and in a proper setting for me to react, too. I don't do namecalling... never have... I would never really call him a "loser" anyway... and don't always feel that he is... but that's the way he acts. He, too, is incredibly selfish and manipulative. Obviously... because if he were concerned about me, truly concerned and able to think about my welfare... he could cleary see that what's best for me is to be away from someone who doesn't have hold of his addiction. But I don't really fault him for that too much, since I was right there with him not seeing it for so very long. Everyone else could... except the two of us.
And then there was one.