Thanks Teke.
Weird thing is... I don't even really want to tell him. I just want to make it clear to myself... and memorialize somehow... that I know it. The way I feel right now... the realization... but I wonder if it is real and helpful, or dilluted and harmful.
Either way... I guess it is whatever gets you through the day without succumbing to those codependent ways. One day at a time, right?