Before we lived together:
Paid for trips.
paid to set up his business
Paid for equipment for the business
Gave him my old car when I bought a new(er) one (the old one was the best one he ever had!)
Gave him my old computer when his crashed
Gave him grocery cards
Gave him phone cards Work as an unpaid photography assitant at weddings for his business
Paid for advertising for his business
Took him with me to choose the house I now have
After he moved in:
Paid the mortgage and all the bills
Mowed the grass and did all the work on the house myself
Bought a truck for him to use
Paid for more vacation trips
Gave him a low limit credit card (my credit, his name and he did pay that off, upon which I cancelled it and he got mad.. LOL)
Accepted that his job was less than full time and so did not expect him to pay half of the expenses of the house
Essentially I believed this man and his story that if he only had a chance.. if he only had a good platform from which to get his life on track he would.
He repaid me by lying and cheating on me and leaving me with his bills. Now he gets nothing from me but he has found a new co dependent to leach off of. However, he is learning a few things.. and one is that he has PO'd the wrong woman this time and some of us do not just lay down and put up with his continued return to walk on us.
Sometimes there is a biting snake hidden under the person he though was a door mat....