Oh gwenmarie, I'm so so sorry you're hurting. I wish I could comfort you. I understand why you drove - it's a catch 22, I know. At least nothing happened to make that worse.
He is obviously very angry and it may very well be legitimate, but taking the phone so you can't call anyone is too far no matter what. You didn't boil one of the children alive after all. You're not a murderer, rapist, robber, etc. You have a right to call someone if you want to try to find some comfort.
You are able to go to work. You are trying to meet your court obligations. Just do the best you can each day and you'll get through it. You seem like you're doing the basics - you obviously want to live