whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP, this too shall pass. you did what you had to do. sorry that you are going through all of this, and i think that in spite of all of this, you are still showing great strength. maybe in time, you both can find healing and forgiveness as long as he see that you are walking the walk and not just talking the talk. sometimes, family members can't see whats in your heart, but you know and so does your hp. keeping you, your family and your marriage in my prayers.
sounds like your husband still looking to the past but he also sound concerned about your welfare too. have he gone to any meetings yet?