Lostparent,
I was thinking, did the check cashing place say anything about them pressing charges? I'm not sure if they can or not. As for your Grandson, please see a lawyer, it is not fair to you that she keeps saying she will take him. If you see a lawyer you will know what your legal rights are. The social worker might not know the law correctly or what your opitions are.
I have been thinking of you and your family and my heart really goes out to you. It took me 2 weeks to press charges and I kept going back and forth. Please turn this over to your HP, you will know what is right for you at the right time. Just because some of us have press charges does not mean you have to. Do what is best for you and your family. I wanted you to know that I made the decision and it is a hard one, and what has happened to me since. Just wanted to show you what can happen. I pray that your AD wises up and will get the help she needs.
Hugs,