Hi Lost,
I am in a similar difficult position. My daughter (21) and her boyfriend(22) have written checks, and run up our credit cards. My husband went to the police, but has since had cold feet. I told her go to rehab or go to jail. Well, it is now two weeks since we found out, and they are still running around on the streets, have been arrested for possession, and they are still free.
At this point, jail would be a blessing, and I am praying for the guts to carry through. It is insane that I don't want to hurt her, and am allowing her to continue to hurt herself this way. I am in a quandary. My husband feels the way some other have expressed it, afraid of her doing real time.
We are depressed and confused.
jeepgirl