Patchouli, LIke the others, I am sorry for the grief that you are experiencing now. The rage at finding out the other crap only adds to that. Just know that eventually, little by little, this will come to pass. It may seem like forever when it is going on, but a year from now you will see that things will be very different. LIfe is impermanent and ever-changing.
Hugs to you and peace.