i agree with lith, time will tell you whats going on, and in the mean time, its time to do what you have to do to protect your finances and your valuables. addiction is progressive, it does get so much worse. in time you'll know all you need to know, being detective will cause axiety and insanity, try to find something to do to keep your mind occupied so that you won't find yourself ossessing about what is going on. you'll know when you know, beside that, when you do know, there is nothing you can do to make him stop, he has to do that on his own and he's the only one who can make that call for himself.