the addict in my life is my son. i love him so very much. detachment to me means, there is nothing i can do to make him quit using or work a program so i do not even try.to do so spoils the time with him clean. when he is using he knows i will not give him anything to help him get high.detachment is letting him sit in jail for his consequences.i detach from his life of drugs. i do not detach my love from him, only his life of drugs. with a husband,or friend it is your choice to stay with him or leave him.it is all in what you want out of life.i want happiness & to have it i can not live with my son.i hope this helps you a little.