welcome to sr. i completely understand your confusion. everyone has given you good answers. just to add, we try to go by our own experiences, and help each other in that way. we do not judge. i have found that once i was able to seperate my feelings for my daughter & her addiction, i was then ready to live my life. i now enjoy my life. and i have the tools to get me though the bad times.
i believe we are here to share our hope, fears & strength.
good luck to you & keep coming back