I'm getting there. I've been with mine going on 4 years. He's in jail right now and I'm learning that I DON'T really need him. I went to visit him last night and looking at him did nothing for me. Its almost like I didn't recognize him. Now that he's gone and I can go through all his stuff (I know, not a good thing to do, but still... ) and finding all the pawn tickets for the things he's stolen to buy crack... just makes it easier to start my moving on. I think.