Fortunately, Al-Anon has a short story book called "MAMA, WHAT IS DRUNK? That really helped me with that question not long ago...As an adult child I would have rather had the truth than all the made up things I was told.... For me after I found Al-Anon, it was such a relief to find out that it is a disease that affects the whole family...It wasn't my fault or something I had done or not done. Today, I realize that my parents did the best they could with what they had to work with. (60 years ago) KIds, sometimes (in my opinion) can do better with the truth than grown-ups can...
I want my grandchildern to KNOW the truth. So when we got them 11 years ago I read them the book and we talk about the disease of alcoholism including my part in it as it was back then and where I am with it now...They know where I go on Monday nights and why...
Consider yourselves hugged...Been there and done that...