What to tell the kids?
I have twin girls, age 9. When should I level with them the REAL reason Daddy is gone so much? They are clued in to a lot- "Call Daddy at the bar", etc... however, they have pretty much stopped asking where he is when they wake up and he's not there. They make minor comments about beer, etc..
I have never come out and told them that their Daddy has a drinking problem, as I feel they are too young to understand.
What and when to I disclose this?
We never fight in front of them. In fact, we never yell about anything. As I had mentioned in other posts, I hiss comments to him.
I never call him at the bar, his boozo buddies house, etc, unless I really need to get a hold of him. I used to, but stopped a while ago.
They love their ather, and I don't want to downgrade him to them, but I'm not sure how much they should know.