I am in exactly the same dilemna as you - except for the treatment after work thing (we're just on day 4 of detox right now - so far so good). I was wondering to myself this morning if I push on taking him to a noon meeting - he hasn't been to one in over a week. I think yesterday my husband ate 8 big crackers with cheese on them and a salad. The fantastic news, to me, is that he made the salad all by himself (I wasn't even home) and chose it because they told him to eat leafy greens - Healthy, self-caring choices all on his own!!!! He also took his vitamins of his own accord!
I thought the same thing - he's too physically ill right now to make all his own food, so I've been making and offering. Soon he'll be stronger and then I'll taper off.
Thanks...