I've read stories about some As hitting their bottom and changing overnight... sitting in an AA meeting everynight, and everything the AA people say suddenly makes so much sense to them, and they haven't picked up aother drink since...
I do believe this happens. But it doesn't happen to every A. And nobody knows how long or how much it'll take for that to happen. When that happens, it'll show in the A's actions.
I've seen my AH's attitude changing overnight many times (so remorseful, so determined to quit etc). But his actions never did. He's never serious about working a program. He's nothing similar to those "My Stories of Recovery" I've read here at SR.
He's been "sober" for a month now. But I'm not as excited as before about his not drinking. And not as worried as before about his not working a program. Reminding myself I'm powerless over it helps, i guess!