Originally Posted by
FormerDoormat 
When your ex-partner ruins Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve, and yet you still invite her out to dinner for Valentine's Day, what do you call that?
Self-torture.
Instead of getting upset over what your ex-girlfriend is doing or not doing, how about devoting some time to figuring out why you torture yourself in this way. Just a suggestion....
I'll correct a few things here. It was LUNCH and I have/had no other motive than to see how things were going in her life. I apologize for not being able to completely sever all ties with a woman I was a relationship for four years. I promise to be a tad more bitter and cold in the future.
Self-torture would be marrying AND having children with an A. Self-torture would be enduring years of verbal/physical abuse, financial ruin, and social ridicule. I guess I dodged a bullet.