NEG........i will have to disagree with all the other posters. my xh changed overnight.
about one thousand times. probably more. and he was always so well sounding, and sincere that i always bought it hook, line, and sinker.
i used to think.....how could he lie so convincingly all the time like that??? damn, he was good at it.
but then i learned something....he probably sounded so sincere because he WAS sincere at the moment....it was just the next moment that robbed him of his sincerety of sobriety.
and each time, my hopes would soar to the heavens, and my heart would nearly burst with love, devotion, determination and new found strength.
and every time, it all lasted about 2 weeks at the most.
no. no. no. no. no. no. mine did not change overnight, or in one week, or in two months......and i don't believe most do.
alcoholism is a huge, complicated monster....it just doesn't go "poof" for most people.
i sure wish it did.