Another thing to remember is that forgiving a person does not mean you have to start up an intense relationship with them again.
Forgiving means to recognize their human frailties-we all have them in varying degrees-and to give yourself the gift of letting go of the rage, resentment and bitterness.
There can be forgiveness without forgetting. There can be forgiveness without acting as if the entire situation didn't happen and acting as if the person is trustworthy, when they are not.
It is perfectly fine not to trust someone who has proven himself or herself untrustworthy. You can still forgive them, and protect yourself by detaching from them. Forgiveness does not mean making yourself into a doormat again!
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