Mlynn, you bring up the exact question I've been asking myself for a long. While I haven't lived with my mother for six years, she has since been in rehab three times and each time has fallen back into the drink (this time isn't so bad, though).
I find I'm unable to have a decent conversation with her (even when she's sober), let alone want to give her a hug. Every day I fight the urge to just ignore my family (who think I just need to get over myself - they are much older than me and didn't experience what I did).
Exactly a week ago my partner suggested I search online for what i now know is ACoA. I can't tell you how much better I feel a week later. But I still don't want to deal with my mother. I could still quite happily walk away.
I've made a decision to be selfish and focus on healing myself for the time being, but after that, I really don't know if I'll be willing to move on with my mother.
Has anyone here actually walked away from their alcoholic parent(s)?