A Letter to My Spouse
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Join Date: Mar 2019
Posts: 4
Thank you for this letter, but most of all thank each of you for sharing your testimony. I was not married to an addict, but I loved him very much. He destroyed our happy relationship by simply abandoning me as a lover and as a friend. I did not understand why I took this particular breakup so hard because I have broken up with people in the past. This one was potent because I saw a side to him that I did not recognize. He was not the person who use to call me love of his life, or his forever. This person was destructive and mean. I loved how this letter put the slow death process into words.
Seeking healing, I am in a similar position to you. My fiancé is, underneath the drink daemon, the most amazing, handsome, loving man I’ve ever been in a relationship with. I think that that is what makes it so hard, as you can see the person beneath who you just wish would emerge healed. It truely breaks my heart that I can not fix his problems or takeaway his pain and I feel SO frustrated that he cannot see for himself what an amazing life he has, or would have if he didn’t have to drink every night.
I am in the process of trying to work out what I do. I love him so very much but, after yet another major dip this week, I don’t know if I can take it any more - like you however I see two people. I’m trying to remind myself that the one I’m in love with is the one that’s hidden and tell myself that I don’t have to accept the way the other one treats me.
My heart goes out to you, take care and stay strong.
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Join Date: Feb 2020
Posts: 1
Thank you, this is my experience, though now we are not together and I watch from afar. It is no less painful.I missed him in our relationship and I miss him now he has left. So sad for all of us impacted by this disease.
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